Ideally, run your own node. The second best thing is to use a node ran by a friend or family member you trust. Anyone is invited to use my “friends and family” node to connect their wallets.
I take care to not log any activity, but I cannot guarantee about underlying hosting providers. You should always prefer connecting with VPN or Tor to any 3rd party service.
Tor / auto pairing⌗
Your wallet needs to support Tor and/or you need to have Tor installed.